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Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Honoring Mom

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This past weekend we celebrated Mother’s Day in a way we never have before. We decided to take mom out for the day and treat her, along with ourselves, to a relaxing day out. What we discovered was that it was not what we did that was so unique (shopping, spa, dinner) but rather the newness of the experience that we shared together that made it special. We do not usually focus on ourselves as much as we probably should. We find that we are caregivers most of the time. And although we certainly shop and have dinner out, going somewhere new and different turned the day into a celebratory one.

We were three generations of women that Sunday, each one of us with a different perspective and point of view. Getting away for the day served to give us shared memories that will last forever.

We love you, mom!

Holly and Heather’s Helpful Hint: Handling Changes

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This time of year always brings a great deal of change to our lives for a little while. We’ve blogged before about endings and beginnings and it seems it is happening again. While we have children in school, transitioning from academic packed days and a steady routine to lazy summer days can be tricky. Even a change in job schedules is fraught with goodbyes and hellos and a completely different “summertime” vibe. While change is a part of life, we must take time to decompress a little and adjust to the changes.  Give yourself permission to miss the people and places you have spent so much time with and look forward to a fresh new start and a different routine.

Summer goes by so fast, take time to enjoy the sunshine if you can.  Even just dinner outside is a small but welcome breath of fresh air.  Make memories and remember to spread love and kindness throughout your day!

Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Keep Your Chin Up

We have experienced a few losses this past year with loved ones in our immediate and extended family. As time marches on, the void is still there with every social gathering and celebration. But it is perhaps the little moments, when something will spark a memory, that seem to hit the hardest. They bring to mind that that person REALLY is gone and we will never see them again in this world. We have hope that their spirit surrounds us and watches over our lives as we continue on. And sometimes we receive signs that their presence is still here: a knock when no one is there, ambiguous things like lots of coins showing up or butterflies close by. We know this may seem “out there” to some but they say when something out of the ordinary happens, the first person’s image to pop into our heads is the loved one we’ve lost saying, “Hello, I’m here.”  If it gives you comfort to share an experience here, please do so.  We are all in this world together.  We understand that everyone has different ways of dealing with loss so lets help each other.  Keep your chin up and walk on.

Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Give Thanks

Thanksgiving traditions are as unique as we are. Although many celebrate with a big meal, watching football and gathering with family and friends, others spend the day in a different way. Service is a big part of Thanksgiving for those who wish to volunteer at a shelter or a soup kitchen. There are people who are grieving this time of year as well and wish to spend the day quietly without a lot of fan fare.

This year, our traditional family gathering of around twenty-five or so people will be pared down to a much smaller number, probably nine or ten. Familial obligations around the country keep us separated in space but not in our hearts. We will give thanks for all of our family near and far and recall fond memories of the past while creating new ones as well.

One tradition our family enjoys is to go around the table, right before we eat, and one at a time state something that we are thankful for. Then there is usually a volunteer to pray. We like to remember our grandmother’s prayer on Thanksgiving: “Be present at our table Lord, be here as everywhere adored, give us Thy grace and grant that we, may feast in Paradise with Thee.”

What’s your Thanksgiving tradition?

Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Have a Family Fun Day!

Summer is the perfect time to pick a day and have some family togetherness. Schedules are a little more relaxed and parents usually have some vacation days carved out in July or August. As our children are growing, it’s not always “cool” to be hanging out with your parents. That, coupled with different interests and ideas on what to do with your free time, can make it hard to have regular bonding family time. Don’t let that discourage you! Family fun is important.  Making memories is something everybody will have with them for the rest of their lives. So, what to do? Here are some ideas for a fun day together, all of which we’ve done and loved:

*Take your bicycles to a local park where you can ride on lots of trails, free of motorists.  The scenery is beautiful and peaceful.  Pack some food for a nice lunch after your ride.

*Go into your nearest city or village for a day of walking and sightseeing.  If it’s a bit of a drive, take a train or ferry together, very conducive for conversation.  Take turns picking what to visit; let everybody pick their favorite place.  Be sure to stop for ice cream!

*Plan a day at home, playing games together.  Play a group video game together to satisfy the kids, a card game for dad and a board game for mom.  Let everyone pick their favorite.  End the day with an upbeat movie or action flick.

By all means, still take that week-long vacation if you can.  Sometimes it’s good to get away for a bit, reconnect and refresh the spirit with those closest to you – your family!  What’s your favorite thing to do for a family fun day?

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