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Holly and Heather’s Helpful Hint: What Are You Waiting For?!

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We are sure you noticed the double punctuation at the end of the title above. It represents both a poignant question and an enthusiastic statement about your life.  What are you waiting for?!

Here is a trivial example that happened recently: We are both always trying to de-clutter our homes and while cleaning out the bathroom came across a small fragrant sample bottle of shampoo.  It was saved because it smelled so good and it was just enough for maybe two washings.  But then when would it ever be enjoyed?  So, on a mundane day with nobody to smell the delicious scent but the user, it was happily used.  No time like the present!  Do you save your special dishes or good candles for a once a year enjoyment, or pack them away so you even forget you have them?  Read that book, go on that get-a-way, try that new recipe.  Enjoy yourself now!  What are you waiting for!

Here’s a meaningful example that happened a few years ago: We were dreaming of starting this blog but were halted towards trying something new, maybe out of fear or time commitment.  It represented the beginning of a change in lifestyle, possibly of even something more in the future.  If you have been thinking of something large or small, a change in housing, job or hobby, what’s holding you back?  Sometimes planning for something you’ve been dreaming about is a good start to realizing that what you want could be attainable.  What are you waiting for?


Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Brace Yourself

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The day before Halloween we went shopping together and realized we forgot to buy candy for all the trick or treaters. We were in the market but did not remember the candy faux pas until we were finished shopping, on our way to the checkout, hurriedly passing by the bakery items and out of the corner of our eyes caught sight of a Halloween cake. We doubled back down the candy aisle (where were those big displays that typically smacked one in the face as soon as you entered the store?) and grabbed a few bags of chocolates. We did not realize what was happening in the “world of commercialism” until we ran one more errand (the pharmacy) and noticed that not only was there no Halloween display, the shelves that were typically stocked with costumes, candy, decorations, etc. were bare. It was October 30th and not only was Halloween already over in the stores, but Thanksgiving wasn’t even happening. It was already Christmas. Brace yourself. Stay in the moment – physically, mentally, emotionally – or else you’ll miss it.

Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Be Mindful

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On Mother’s Day, we always try to give our mother lovely, thoughtful gifts and in return, she continually out-does us. This year, among her myriad gifts to us was a book called, “The One Plan”. When she saw it in the store, she was attracted to it because its yogic theme reminded her of us (we both practice although we consider ourselves amateurs). And yes, the book is about yoga but also about many topics that most would not consider a typical “yoga” book. The book contains a year-long plan that promises a happier, healthier life. Who wouldn’t be interested in how to obtain that?

Although we are only two weeks past mother’s day and thus only two weeks into the fifty-two week plan, the topic of mindfulness has been discussed. The practice of mindfulness is a newly growing trend that has actually been around for thousands of years. What’s interesting is that schools are trying to adopt the practice as a means of helping children to focus better, help reduce anxiety, reduce difficulty with peers and to become better listeners. The research trend seems to be positive and according to different articles written on the topic, better test scores have been a by-product.

So what is mindfulness? In its simplest form, it means staying aware in the present moment. We have blogged in the past about the importance of “being present” especially when discussing how to enjoy life and reduce worries about the future or guilt from the past. But becoming truly mindful in your day to day life is something that you can practice every day, throughout the day and as you get better and better at it hopefully you too will see the fruits of your labor!  More to follow in blogs to come…

Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Take It One Day At A Time

Sometimes when we think about the future, it can really keep us off-balance. Not always, just sometimes. We have written before about staying present and enjoying the moment. But there are times we need to look ahead and plan for the future. And there are times in our lives when we need to look back and appreciate how we’ve grown, savor memories or learn from mistakes. It’s a juggling act of sorts: taking life one day at a time while honoring your past and preparing for the future.

For us right now, we have children changing schools, family members changing jobs and one of us is thinking about moving. With these changes comes a fair amount of uncertainty about what the future holds and how our lives will be different. Change is difficult even when it is change for the better. When the tenuous feelings come, it helps us to remember to take it one day at a time. Planning for the future in all aspects of our lives can be difficult and sometimes we have to honor life’s fragility and spontaneity. Easy to say, hard to do…

Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Staying Present

There is so much talk about “living in the moment” and “enjoying the here and now”. This is easier said than done sometimes. It seems that we constantly need to remind ourselves to slow down, stop worrying, enjoy what you are doing right now. Why is staying present so hard to do?

Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, it is tough to remain joyful. Life throws many stressors at us everyday. Sometimes there is grief and pain. But the key to staying happy, even through tough situations, may lie in our ability to stay grounded in the present moment.

So here’s something to try that might be helpful. When you feel anxious, depressed, scared, any emotion that might rob you of your joy, take a deep breath and think, “I am ok right now, right at this very moment.” When you get caught up in thinking about the past, or anxious about what may be in the future, come back to the present and tell yourself that all is well right now, in this moment. It is no good to dwell on what was or what may be.  That time is over or may never come.  Keep good memories in your heart and live in the present.  Sometimes all we can do is put one foot in front of the other and keep walking.  And that is ok.

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